Ian James Foster

1977 - 2006
Location♥~♥~♥~♥~♥~poulton Le Fylde, Nr Blackpool.♥~♥~♥~♥~♥~ Ian Tragically And Predictably Took His Own Life. Our Lovely Ian Set Fire To Himself And Died As A Result Of His Injuries
Age28 years
Cause of DeathOrgan Failure
Date of Birth10/11/1977
Date of Death08/09/2006
Visitors17,468 since 06/11/2006
CreatorSheila Mum to Ian and wife of Trev
HelpersMum

I WOULD LIKE TO WISH ALL MY GTS FRIENDS A PEACEFUL CHRISTMAS...THANKYOU FOR ALL YOUR SUPPORT I AM SO SORRY ABOUT THE LACK OF CANDLES MY COMPUTER IS PLAYING UP....TAKE CARE EVERYONE!!

WORDS CANNOT EXPRESS THE LOSS WE FEEL IN OUR HEARTS.

I MISS MY DARLING SON IAN SO MUCH, MY HEART ACHES TO SEE HIM. MY FRIENDS ON HERE YOU HAVE ALL BEEN A WONDERFUL SUPPORT TO ME. love Sheila xxx

"The time came when the pain it took to stay,
was greater than the pain it took to go"

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IAN BORN AT BLACKPOOL VICTORIA HOSPITAL, (ironically the same hospital that deprived Ian of life)... IAN JAMES FOSTER ON 10TH NOVEMBER 1977... HE WENT TO HEAVEN ON 8TH SEPTEMBER 2006

My so loved and adored, loving, kind and beautiful son Ian on the 6th September 2006 went to Blackpool Promenade with a can of petrol and poured it over himself. Then set himself alight. On the 8th September 2006 he died as a result of his injuries.

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Fireball man in critical condition
By Citizen reporter
A man is in a critical condition after he set himself on fire on Blackpool's North Pier yesterday at about 2pm.

Hundreds of onlookers saw the man, believed to be in his twenties and from Lytham, jump into the water before being pulled to shore by officers from Blackpool's beach patrol.

He was taken to Blackpool Victoria Hospital by the North West Air Ambulance and later transferred to the Royal Preston Hospital, where his condition is critical.


A spokesman for Lancashire Constabulary, said witness statements had been taken. "We are investigating the incident and are in the process of trying to notify the gentleman's next of kin," he said.

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Fireball man still fighting for life (Blackpool Gazette)


A MAN who turned himself into a human fireball on Blackpool beach continues to fight for life.
The 28-year-old was seen by horrified onlookers on Wednesday afternoon dousing himself with a liquid, believed to be petrol, before becoming engulfed in flames.
Witnesses on the Promenade close to North Pier have told police they shouted to the man to head for the sea to extinguish himself.
Blackpool Beach Patrol, paramedics and members of the fire service helped get the man to the air ambulance, which took him to the Royal Preston Hospital.
He was transferred to the specialist burns unit at Wythenshaw Hospital in Manchester and is said to be suffering from 80 per cent burns.
His condition was today described as critical.

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The day before I had spent the day on the internet reading my rights on the mental health act and armed with this I rang the hospital where my son Ian was a patient and begged them to section my Ian. Then I rang his psychiatrist (unbeknown to me he had never set eyes on Ian) and begged him to to section Ian for his own safety as I KNEW Ian was going to harm himself. THE HOSPITAL AND THE PSYCHIATRIST COMPLETELY IGNORED ME AND SAID 'Ian is fine'

I wasnt informed this last time that Ian went into hospital he had been in a few days and then on the monday he rang us and told us he was there. Because of his behavior the week prior to his admittance this is why I knew that he was at risk. He appeared to be doing so well but it became quite apparent to me and Trev that he was getting really sick. We wernt informed why he had gone in this time but because of the way he had been to us this is why I made a desperate plea to the hospital and his psychiatrist to be sectioned. We were only informed after Ians death that he had gone in as he had rung the police and told them he was going to do something serious to make them kill him.....now if this is not a sign that he was extremely unwell I do not know what is...he was at risk to not only himself but others too.....and yet the hospital knew this and they still did not section him they said 'he was fine'. Well he may have been fine for that moment but he was probably sedated up to the eyes anyway.

On the 6th September my husband and I had arranged with Ian to meet with him at 2pm there was to be a meeting to discuss his care. When we arrived at the hospital he wasnt there. The hospital informed us that he had gone out. Anway we had the meeting with out him, unbeknown to us while the meeting was being held Ian my precious son was being airlifted to hospital.

I didnt know about this until about 6pm when a policeman knocked on our door and told us that Ian had had an accident and that he was in Wythenshaw burns unit. We went almost immediately. I was there until the 8th September sitting by his bed. He wasnt concsious or in pain. Ian was bandaged from head to toe. Just a slight hole for his mouth and eyes but you couldnt recognise him in anyway except by his height he was a strapping 6 foot two.

Me Trev Julie and the kids were all devastated. We had the funeral at Poulton new cemetary where he is buried. My ex husband at the time would not ALLOW me to have my Ian cremated and he was prepared to take me to court or have Ian left in the funeral home. After a month I relented and had Ian buried. It just goes to show what a wicked man Ian's real dad is he not only did a serious rape to a family member but had to have his own way even in Ian's death. The service though was beautiful, the music by Freddie Mercury, Don Maclean and Enya was all so fitting...and afterwards we sent 50 balloons into the sky with messages on from us all. Ian loved John Lennon singing 'Imagine' and that was played too at his funeral along with puff daddy.

We still havnt had the inquest yet I think it will be sometime this year. Rethink the mental health charity are providing me with a barrister for that time.


Ian's dad Trevor died since on the 22nd May 2007 http://trevor-herbert-rothwell.gonetoosoon.co.uk/..Ian thought the world of Trev and Trev thought the world of Ian. They often went for games of snooker and to watch the football at City. Ian was really into his music ..everytime we saw him he had his earphones in! listening to his latest ...he loved listening to Enya and Queen amongst many others

Ian has a daughter Ellie Mae a sister Julie and two nephews Louie and Charlie he loved them all. He also had me his mum and Trevor his dad

Ian loved Mancity and fishing and betting at the bookies, he loved going to Cornwall especially Mousehole where we spent a family holiday.
Ian had great interest in all the galaxy and sometimes you would see him gazing at the stars, we even went to the lakes especially to see the stars in the sky once on a cloudless night.

In september 2005 exactly a year before Ians death Trev and I took Ian away on holiday to Devon for a week. We had the most fantastic time in fact this picture of Ian was taken on the way home at Symonds Yat.

We still havnt had the inquest I expect it to be sometime this year.

One of the reasons I suspect that Ian took his own life was partly due to the fact that his ex wouldnt allow Ian to see his daughter Ellie Mae, he was heartbroken over this as he was a brilliant father. We did go via the court at one stage but Ian gave up as he found the process too upsetting. Another thing was Ian's real father did a serious sexual assault on a family member and Ian could never really cope or get over it.

I hope my darling son that you get the peace now in heaven that you didnt get here on earth. I love you darling. mum



"The time came when the pain it took to stay,
was greater than the pain it took to go"


There is a supportive group,welostourlovedones throughsuicide, ..if you have lost a loved one by them taking their own life do join us we can help you through the many dark days.

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Carol Ledner
December 5, 2008

THIS TRIBUTE IS FOR FRIDAY BUSY DAY FOR ME

Have A Good Weekend Everyone

If I Knew

If I knew it would be the last time
That I'd see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly
and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.

If I knew it would be the last time
that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss
and call you back for one more.

If I knew it would be the last time
I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word,
so I could play them back day after day.

If I knew it would be the last time,
I could spare an extra minute
to stop and say "I love you,"
instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.

If I knew it would be the last time
I would be there to share your day,
well I'm sure you'll have so many more,
so I can let just this one slip away.

For surely there's always tomorrow
to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance
to make everything just right.

There will always be another day
to say "I love you,"
And certainly there's another chance to say
our "Anything I can do?"

But just in case I might be wrong,
and today is all I get,
I'd like to say how much I love you
and I hope we never forget.

Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,
young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance
you get to hold your loved one tight.

So if you're waiting for tomorrow,
why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes,
you'll surely regret the day,

That you didn't take that extra time
for a smile, a hug, or a kiss
and you were too busy to grant someone,
what turned out to be their one last wish.

So hold your loved ones close today,
and whisper in their ear,
Tell them how much you love them
and that you'll always hold them dear

Take time to say "I'm sorry,"
"Please forgive me," "Thank you," or "It's okay."
And if tomorrow never comes,
you'll have no regrets about today.


Thoughts Today Memories Forever
Angela(Christopher-John Rowe)Mum

Marie-Angela Rowe December 4, 2008

Right now I'm in a different place
And although we seem apart
I'm closer than I ever was
I'm there inside your heart
I'm with you when you greet each day
And while the sun shines bright
I'm there to share the sunsets too
I'm with you every night
I'm with you when the times are good
And if a tear should start to fall
I'll still be there for you
And when the day arrives
That we are no longer apart
I'll smile and hold you close to me
Forever in my heart

Sorry ive not been on for a while but due to PC playing up and other probs not been possible.
My Love to you and your loving family xxxxx

VIOLET Paul Muirheads mum (Friend)
December 4, 2008

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Christmas In Heaven



I see the countless Christmas Trees around the world below,
with tiny lights, like heaven's stars, reflecting on the snow.
The sight is so spectacular, please wipe away that tear,
for I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
I hear the many Christmas songs that people hold so dear,
but the sounds of music can't compare with the Christmas choir up here.
I have no words to tell you, the joy their voices bring,
for it is beyond description, to hear the angels sing.
I know how much you miss me. I see the pain inside your heart,
but I am not so far away. We really aren't apart.
So be happy for me dear ones. You know I hold you dear,
and be glad I'm spending Christmas, with Jesus Christ this year.
I send you each a special gift, from my heavenly home above.
I send you each a memory of, my undying love.
After all 'LOVE' is the gift, more precious than pure gold.
It was always most important in the stories Jesus told.
Please love and keep each other, as my Father said to do,
for I can't count the blessing or love he has for each of you.
So have a Merry Christmas and wipe away that tear,
Remember, I'm spending Christmas, with Jesus Christ this year.

Pauline Wheeler (Best Friend)
December 4, 2008

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God of compassion, there is such a hole in my heart! Today should be a day of joy, but I feel only emptiness and loss. While the world celebrates around me, I remember Christmas celebrations of the past and I long to have my loved one with me. I bring my sorrows to you, Lord, like some odd gift of the magi and dump them at your feet. In my blind tears I wonder if anyone can possibly understand the depth of my sadness.

I know, you can. You sent your son to be with us in our deepest sorrows and I know that even though I might not feel it now, you are here with me, grieving with me, caring for me in my sadness. Dearest lord, help me to turn to the one I miss so much today and speak. Help me heal the loss of our parting and help me not to regret the things I didn't say. Sorrow tears at my heart, but today I ask that my loss soften my heart and make me more compassionate with everyone I meet, so that my loss may become a gift to others.
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Pauline Wheeler (Best Friend)
December 4, 2008

I Am Always With You
When I am gone, release me, let me go.
I have so many things to see and do,
You mustn't tie yourself to me with too many tears,
But be thankful we had so many good years.
I gave you my love, and you can only guess
How much you've given me in happiness.
I thank you for the love that you have shown,
But now it is time I traveled on alone.
So grieve for me a while, if grieve you must
Then let your grief be comforted by trust
That it is only for a while that we must part,
So treasure the memories within your heart.
I won't be far away for life goes on.
And if you need me, call and I will come.
Though you can't see or touch me, I will be near
And if you listen with your heart, you'll hear
All my love around you soft and clear
And then, when you come this way alone,
I'll greet you with a smile and a "Welcome Home".
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Kim Keisha Warner mom (Friend)
December 4, 2008

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MAY I TAKE THE OPPORTUNITY TO WISH YOU A VERY HAPPY CHRISTMAS.
ALTHOUGH IF YOU FEEL ANYTHING LIKE I DO, YOU WILL BE
MAKING THE BEST YOU CAN OF IT.
IT DOESN'T TAKE CHRISTMAS TO THINK OF AND MISS OUR LOVED ONES, BUT AT THIS TIME IT BECOMES ALMOST UNBEARABLE, HOWEVER, HAVING FOUND YOU MY GTS FRIEND, I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER, YOU KNOW HOW I FEEL YOU KNOW HOW I THINK AND YOU CERTANLY KNOW HOW I HURT, MORE SO AT THIS TIME OF YEAR.

MAY I THANK YOU FOR ALL THE LOVE AND SUPPORT YOU HAVE SHOWN TO ME, FOR THE CANDLES, VERSES AND PICTURES FOR JOEY AND LINDSAY THEY MEAN SOOOOOOOOO MUCH TO ME. I SHALL CONTINUE TO LIGHT YOUR LOVED ONES, WHEN I LIGHT THEM A CANDLE I ALWAYS AM THINKING OF YOU YOUR KINDNESS AND SUPPORT.

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LOVE AS ALWAYS ; SEASONAL GREETINGS TO YOU AND YOURS

ALISON AND GIRLS XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Alison Evans (Friend)
December 2, 2008

Please send the candle of love
to someone who has touched your life,
and keep the flame of love burning bright.
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Helen Redding
December 2, 2008

After They Are Gone
When someone we love passes away,
We ache, but we go on;
Our dear departed would want us to heal,
After they are gone.
Grief is a normal way to mend
The anguish and pain in our hearts;
We need time to remember and time to mourn,
Before the recovery starts.
Let's draw together to recuperate,
As we go throught this period of sorrow;
Let's help each other, with tender care
To find a brighter tomorrow.
By Joanna Fuchs
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Love
Kim
GTS Friend

Kim Keisha Warner mom (Friend)
December 2, 2008

Godbless Ian,sleep peacefully in heaven.
Love Nina (cousin of Lee Barron)
xxx

Nina Dales November 30, 2008
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