Ian James Foster
| Location | ♥~♥~♥~♥~♥~poulton Le Fylde, Nr Blackpool.♥~♥~♥~♥~♥~ Ian Tragically And Predictably Took His Own Life. Our Lovely Ian Set Fire To Himself And Died As A Result Of His Injuries |
| Age | 28 years |
| Cause of Death | Organ Failure |
| Date of Birth | 10/11/1977 |
| Date of Death | 08/09/2006 |
| Visitors | 17,464 since 06/11/2006 |
| Creator | Sheila Mum to Ian and wife of Trev |
| Helpers | Mum |
I WOULD LIKE TO WISH ALL MY GTS FRIENDS A PEACEFUL CHRISTMAS...THANKYOU FOR ALL
YOUR SUPPORT I AM SO SORRY ABOUT THE LACK OF CANDLES MY COMPUTER IS PLAYING
UP....TAKE CARE EVERYONE!!
WORDS CANNOT EXPRESS THE LOSS WE FEEL IN OUR HEARTS.
I MISS MY DARLING SON IAN SO MUCH, MY HEART ACHES TO SEE HIM. MY FRIENDS ON HERE
YOU HAVE ALL BEEN A WONDERFUL SUPPORT TO ME. love Sheila xxx
"The time came when the pain it took to stay,
was greater than the pain it took to go"
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IAN BORN AT BLACKPOOL VICTORIA HOSPITAL, (ironically the same hospital that
deprived Ian of life)... IAN JAMES FOSTER ON 10TH NOVEMBER 1977... HE WENT TO
HEAVEN ON 8TH SEPTEMBER 2006
My so loved and adored, loving, kind and beautiful son Ian on the 6th September
2006 went to Blackpool Promenade with a can of petrol and poured it over
himself. Then set himself alight. On the 8th September 2006 he died as a result
of his injuries.
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Fireball man in critical condition
By Citizen reporter
A man is in a critical condition after he set himself on fire on Blackpool's
North Pier yesterday at about 2pm.
Hundreds of onlookers saw the man, believed to be in his twenties and from
Lytham, jump into the water before being pulled to shore by officers from
Blackpool's beach patrol.
He was taken to Blackpool Victoria Hospital by the North West Air Ambulance and
later transferred to the Royal Preston Hospital, where his condition is
critical.
A spokesman for Lancashire Constabulary, said witness statements had been taken.
"We are investigating the incident and are in the process of trying to notify
the gentleman's next of kin," he said.
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Fireball man still fighting for life (Blackpool Gazette)
A MAN who turned himself into a human fireball on Blackpool beach continues to
fight for life.
The 28-year-old was seen by horrified onlookers on Wednesday afternoon dousing
himself with a liquid, believed to be petrol, before becoming engulfed in
flames.
Witnesses on the Promenade close to North Pier have told police they shouted to
the man to head for the sea to extinguish himself.
Blackpool Beach Patrol, paramedics and members of the fire service helped get
the man to the air ambulance, which took him to the Royal Preston Hospital.
He was transferred to the specialist burns unit at Wythenshaw Hospital in
Manchester and is said to be suffering from 80 per cent burns.
His condition was today described as critical.
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The day before I had spent the day on the internet reading my rights on the
mental health act and armed with this I rang the hospital where my son Ian was a
patient and begged them to section my Ian. Then I rang his psychiatrist
(unbeknown to me he had never set eyes on Ian) and begged him to to section Ian
for his own safety as I KNEW Ian was going to harm himself. THE HOSPITAL AND THE
PSYCHIATRIST COMPLETELY IGNORED ME AND SAID 'Ian is fine'
I wasnt informed this last time that Ian went into hospital he had been in a few
days and then on the monday he rang us and told us he was there. Because of his
behavior the week prior to his admittance this is why I knew that he was at
risk. He appeared to be doing so well but it became quite apparent to me and
Trev that he was getting really sick. We wernt informed why he had gone in this
time but because of the way he had been to us this is why I made a desperate
plea to the hospital and his psychiatrist to be sectioned. We were only
informed after Ians death that he had gone in as he had rung the police and told
them he was going to do something serious to make them kill him.....now if this
is not a sign that he was extremely unwell I do not know what is...he was at
risk to not only himself but others too.....and yet the hospital knew this and
they still did not section him they said 'he was fine'. Well he may have been
fine for that moment but he was probably sedated up to the eyes anyway.
On the 6th September my husband and I had arranged with Ian to meet with him at
2pm there was to be a meeting to discuss his care. When we arrived at the
hospital he wasnt there. The hospital informed us that he had gone out. Anway
we had the meeting with out him, unbeknown to us while the meeting was being
held Ian my precious son was being airlifted to hospital.
I didnt know about this until about 6pm when a policeman knocked on our door and
told us that Ian had had an accident and that he was in Wythenshaw burns unit.
We went almost immediately. I was there until the 8th September sitting by his
bed. He wasnt concsious or in pain. Ian was bandaged from head to toe. Just a
slight hole for his mouth and eyes but you couldnt recognise him in anyway
except by his height he was a strapping 6 foot two.
Me Trev Julie and the kids were all devastated. We had the funeral at Poulton
new cemetary where he is buried. My ex husband at the time would not ALLOW me to
have my Ian cremated and he was prepared to take me to court or have Ian left in
the funeral home. After a month I relented and had Ian buried. It just goes to
show what a wicked man Ian's real dad is he not only did a serious rape to a
family member but had to have his own way even in Ian's death. The service
though was beautiful, the music by Freddie Mercury, Don Maclean and Enya was all
so fitting...and afterwards we sent 50 balloons into the sky with messages on
from us all. Ian loved John Lennon singing 'Imagine' and that was played too at
his funeral along with puff daddy.
We still havnt had the inquest yet I think it will be sometime this year.
Rethink the mental health charity are providing me with a barrister for that
time.
Ian's dad Trevor died since on the 22nd May 2007
http://trevor-herbert-rothwell.gonetoosoon.co.uk/..Ian thought the world of Trev
and Trev thought the world of Ian. They often went for games of snooker and to
watch the football at City. Ian was really into his music ..everytime we saw
him he had his earphones in! listening to his latest ...he loved listening to
Enya and Queen amongst many others
Ian has a daughter Ellie Mae a sister Julie and two nephews Louie and Charlie he
loved them all. He also had me his mum and Trevor his dad
Ian loved Mancity and fishing and betting at the bookies, he loved going to
Cornwall especially Mousehole where we spent a family holiday.
Ian had great interest in all the galaxy and sometimes you would see him gazing
at the stars, we even went to the lakes especially to see the stars in the sky
once on a cloudless night.
In september 2005 exactly a year before Ians death Trev and I took Ian away on
holiday to Devon for a week. We had the most fantastic time in fact this
picture of Ian was taken on the way home at Symonds Yat.
We still havnt had the inquest I expect it to be sometime this year.
One of the reasons I suspect that Ian took his own life was partly due to the
fact that his ex wouldnt allow Ian to see his daughter Ellie Mae, he was
heartbroken over this as he was a brilliant father. We did go via the court at
one stage but Ian gave up as he found the process too upsetting. Another thing
was Ian's real father did a serious sexual assault on a family member and Ian
could never really cope or get over it.
I hope my darling son that you get the peace now in heaven that you didnt get
here on earth. I love you darling. mum
"The time came when the pain it took to stay,
was greater than the pain it took to go"
There is a supportive group,welostourlovedones throughsuicide, ..if you have
lost a loved one by them taking their own life do join us we can help you
through the many dark days.
BLESSED ARE THEY THAT MOURN FOR THEY SHALL BE COMFORTED.. MATTHEW 5:4
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Melissa Fieldhouse (Sheila's friend) January 25, 2007Thinking of you Sheila and family...here for you always
Always here for you Sheila...hugs Mel xxx
what is dying?
*** WHAT IS DYING? ***
A ship sails and i stand watching till she fades on the horizon
and someone at my side says "she is gone"
Gone where? gone from my sight, that is all;
She is just as large as when i saw her,
The diminished size and total loss of sight is in me, not in her,
and just at the moment when someone at my side says "she is gone"
There are others who are watching her coming,
and other voices take up a glad shout,
"Here she comes!"
And that is dying.
added by kind permission of jack Cox's mum Romana...thankyou dear Romana
Sheila Mum to Ian and wife of Trev (Mum)January 25, 2007
Michelle January 24, 2007ian is now in a better place and is always with you all making sure your ok, your broken heart will only mend with time but will never feel complete untill your reunited but untill then my thoughts are with you all, i had a read through everything and it is truely tuching no mother should have to bury there son be strong and brave and remember all the good memories you shared xx
R.I.P dear ian
Steve (Trevor's Nephew) January 24, 2007R.I.P Ian.
Michelle and I offer our deepest sympathy and condolences for your tragic loss. I wish i had the chance to have known Ian more. Just by what i have learnt and heard about him, i know he was a caring person and a loving father. Please know that our side of the family will always be here for you.
Andy January 24, 2007R.I.P Ian
my deepest sympathy to sheila and trevor, im so sorry you lost your son this way.
Why wont people listen you knew your son better than anyone. Godbless you all my thoughts are with you.
Romana January 24, 2007Thinking of you.
Hello Sheila & Family.
I just wanted to let you know i'm thinking of you at such a hard time for you all. I wish there was something i could say to you to take your pain away - but i know myself there is not. I have added a Man City FC logo for Ian in his picture gallery - i'm sure as their number one fan he will be smiling down with a big thumbs up!
All my Love Romana xxx
Melissa (Friend) January 23, 2007Here for you always Sheila
Hunny my heart breaks for you..just know im always here if and when you ever need to talk..I know theres nothing much I can do..but Im here anyway...just for you to lean on a little...big hugs hunny...love Mel xxx
I found this today whilst looking for something else re another person
I always understood from the police darling that you were unconscious and that you did not feel anything...
then I found the headlines below.................how does a mum cope with this
Sheila Mum to Ian and wife of Trev (Mum)January 22, 2007
Jeannine (none) January 22, 2007I didnt intend to be nosy Sheila. I went to leave you a note just now and happened to se what you wrote to Ian.:( It breaks my heart to read what it said. I originally only came to say youre welcome. Good thing i left it earlier i guess while i was in a ok mood. not got any interest now. thngs got worse for me and now you find this about Ian. I am so sorry sheila. how much worse can it get???? what next?? does it ever get better? my heart aches for you
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Charlotte Chris Mallins Mum lit a candle on Jan 6, 2009, 7:50 pm
Sending some love
as always ~
Charlotte xxxxx
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miss you so much,
our world is empty
without you. The
light has gone from
our lives, and will
never be the same
again. All we want
is you back. 